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Of course I was dumb-founded. I never expected this guy to ask me such a question. He went on to say that I was cold blooded because I just didnt care or bother about how others would feel when they would actually feel terrible while on the other hand I just made as if nothing happened…

I told him at the onset that I wasnt cold blooded but it was just my nature of being able to forgive and forget without a shadow of a doubt. Obviously if the magnitude of the hurt or pain was greater, then it would have some bearing on me but nevertheless I still could forgive and forget.. I continued saying that though people do have emotions but life do not revolve around emotions. You need to set aside emotions when certain things matter, for instance - mixing friendship into work which is very dangerous in fact…

Anyways, when he asked me the question, then it really seriously got me thinking.. It got me thinking and thinking until I became like this…

Nah, kidding.. It got me thinking.. And I guess for some of the key reasons are maybe because I am not small hearted. I can pick up and let go easily. I dont get bogged down easily by trivial matters. More importantly I am bold to face my problems and learn from them. So in any case, when I am faced with problems, be it old or new, I dont tend to sulk or lose sleep over it… My dept manager once told me (back then when I was with my old company, the huge-st CPU MNC) that if you keep it at heart when you are angry at 1 person, you are the one to lose and in fact stupid because the other guy wont give a fuck about how you feel at all… His words were very true, unfortunately he was just a good preacher but a bad student..

I realized at some point of our lives, we tend to learn valuable lessons, life learning experiences that value more than our own self-intellect. No point having an Einstein brain with 200 in IQ but then unable to handle the ups and downs of one’s life. One can be low in IQ but he manaeuvres thru his life with ease. One can be equally dumb but he manages his lows and highs without any problems.

I have friends who are smart. When I say smart, I mean those with IQ of 120 and above. Those who scored a handful of As back in their school days. But these friends of mine find it hard to come face to face with life. Quite often, they bail out. Why? Kiasu is the word. Or Fear in other words. I posted an article about Fear by J Krishnamurti though.

The funny thing is, these folks can not live with criticisms. They can criticize but when they are criticized they cannot take it on the other hand..

These people quite often live behind their shadows. Not wanting to face their dark side because of several reasons. Reasons like getting hurt, unable to accept, fearful of what might not be, etc… All these are forms of self denials.

If you are unable to face pain and hurt, life doesnt carry on. It goes in circles instead.

Forgive and forget is divine intervention. The ability to forgive makes you humble and the ability to forget makes you noble.

Give more and expect less…God Bless..